Everything Was Beautiful… at the Ballet!

The lobby of the Metropolitan Opera at Lincoln Center, where the American Ballet Theatre performs.

The lobby of the Metropolitan Opera at Lincoln Center, where the American Ballet Theatre performs.

Every year we get season tickets to the spring-summer fairy tale performances of the American Ballet Theatre at Lincoln Center. This year’s season included La Bayadere, Sleeping Beauty, Romeo and Juliet, Swan Lake, and just concluded with the stunning production of Cinderella. Every year I fall in love with these stories and the music all over again — although the new production of Sleeping Beauty this year was very disappointing: the performances by the dancers were spectacular but the choreography itself and the costumes/sets were not exciting.

Cinderella’s tale is, of course, one of the best known fairy tales in the English-speaking world although there are so many variants of it from so many cultures that it probably ranks as one of the best known tales anywhere. (One version has been traced back to Egypt in 7 B.C.) For an interesting article on the history of the tale, click here.

One aspect of the story that is hardly discussed is the likelihood of anyone ever really having a godmother or godfather who was a fairy. In standard Christian practice, a godparent must be a baptized member of the Church and promises to raise the newly-baptized child in the faith. This means that a non-Christian was not eligible to serve as godmother or godfather. For a fairy to be eligible to serve as godmother, the fairy would have to have been a baptized convert to Christianity — a highly unlikely possibility as baptismal/holy water was considered anathema to fairy folk and immersion or sprinkling with the consecrated water would have incinerated the fairy! If a fairy DID convert and survived the baptism, this raises two questions. One was WHY would a fairy convert to Christianity? The other was much larger and did actually impact theology: fairies were non-human and there were serious questions in medieval western Europe about whether non-humans (ex. animals, who had no souls or angels, who had no bodies) could be saved. A fairy godmother — if one were to actually exist — would force many theologians to rethink their basic assumptions of how God works in the world.

But still, who hasn’t wanted a fairy godparent looking over their shoulder to protect them at least once in a while?!

My partner Elliot and I on the Grand Staircase of the Metropolitan Opera as we enter for this year's performance of "Cinderella."

My partner Elliot and I on the Grand Staircase of the Metropolitan Opera as we enter for this year’s performance of “Cinderella.”

June Wedding Magic

Wearing "something old" represents the bride's past, while the "something new" symbolizes the couple's happy future. The bride is supposed to get her "something borrowed" from someone who is happily married in the hope that some of that person's good fortune rubs off on her. "Something blue" denotes fidelity and love.

Wearing “something old” represents the bride’s past, while the “something new” symbolizes the couple’s happy future. The bride is supposed to get her “something borrowed” from someone who is happily married in the hope that some of that person’s good fortune rubs off on her. “Something blue” denotes fidelity and love.

June is a popular month for weddings. Not only is the weather generally beautiful for weddings and other celebrations, June was considered named after the Roman goddess Juno, the goddess of marriage and the wife of the supreme deity Jupiter.

However, the Romans had slightly different ideas about weddings in June than we do. In ancient Rome, the period from mid-May through mid-June was considered inauspicious for marriage. Ovid says that he consulted the high priestess of Jupiter, about setting a date for his daughter’s wedding, and was advised to wait till after June 15. Plutarch, however, implies that the entire month of June was more favorable for weddings than May.

Throwing rice (or peas, as in the Czech custom!) is a wish for both fertility and plenty of food on the family table in the years to come. Another popular custom, wearing the wedding ring on the fourth finger of the left hand, has a possible medical origin: according to medieval medical theory, there was blood vessel that ran directly from that finger to the heart (allowing a physician to stir medicinal potions and detect any poison in the mixture by feeling a palpitation of his heart) and so the wedding ring on that finger was also tied directly to the heart.

In addition to weddings in June, according to folklore in Iceland, if you bathe naked in the morning dew on the morning of June 24, you are supposed to keep aging at bay for longer!

Wedding Magic: Cranes

My niece sitting beneath the umbrella adorned with 1,000 paper cranes at her wedding rehearsal dinner.

My niece sitting beneath the umbrella adorned with 1,000 paper cranes at her wedding rehearsal dinner.

A close-up of the 1,000 origami cranes my niece and her new husband folded for their wedding.

A close-up of the 1,000 origami cranes my niece and her new husband folded for their wedding.

I was thrilled and honored to attend the recent wedding of my niece in Seattle. As part of the festivities, she and her husband-to-be had folded 1,000 origami cranes to display at the rehearsal dinner and wedding reception.

Why 1,000 origami paper cranes? An ancient Japanese legend promises that anyone who folds a thousand origami cranes will be granted a wish by a crane. Some stories believe you are granted eternal good luck, instead of just one wish, such as long life or recovery from illness or injury. This makes them popular gifts for special friends and family. The crane in Japan is one of the mystical or holy creatures (others include the dragon and the tortoise) and is said to live for a thousand years: That is why 1000 cranes are made, one for each year. In some stories it is believed that the 1000 cranes must be completed within one year and they must all be made by the person who is to make the wish at the end. Cranes that are made by that person and given away to another aren’t included: All cranes must be kept by the person wishing at the end.

Although the thousand paper cranes are traditionally given as a wedding gift by the father, who is wishing a thousand years of happiness and prosperity upon the couple, in this case my niece and her husband made the cranes themselves (in alignment with the custom that the cranes must be made by the person receiving the wish). Cranes can also be given to a new baby for long life and good luck. Hanging them in one’s home is thought to be a powerfully lucky and benevolent charm.

A hearty “Congratulations!” to Mary and Erik and may the 1,000 cranes bring all the prosperity and good fortune any couple could hope to receive!